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Ever felt like your life is a series of unchangeable patterns? Or believed that who you are is set in stone? Thankfully… this may not be as true as we get stuck thinking. In this episode, I chat with the incredible Erika Cramer, a Mindset Coach, to chat about what it really takes to become magnetic and create the reality you dream of, without getting stuck in your own way.

You don’t want to miss this one, especially if you think you’re not “confident enough” or “magnetic enough.” Erika shares her journey of unraveling beliefs that no longer served her and stepping into a future self that’s bold and unshakeably magnetic. take this as your a permission slip to start designing your own life!

We explore how you can cultivate confidence and magnetism, shifting away from chasing approval and towards attracting opportunities. And my favourite bit (to my surprise): creating your alter-she-go and stepping into that powerful version of yourself now, not later.

We ask the big questions: What energy are you bringing into a room? Are you attracting or repelling what you desire?

This is just a SMALL peek into Erika’s new book, “Becoming Magnetic,” which is brimming with practical steps to become the powerful version of yourself you’ve always dreamed of.

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Realising Confidence is a Choice, Not a Birthright

First things first, let’s debunk a widely accepted myth: confidence isn’t something you’re born with. It’s more like a plant – it requires nurturing, the right conditions, and a bit of talking-to. Erika shared a pivotal moment when she realised that confidence could be cultivated. By unpacking and unraveling her own life experiences – through therapy, introspection, and facing her fears – she discovered that much of what she believed about herself was simply not true. The takeaway here is to challenge those stories you tell yourself about not being “enough” of anything. Instead, get curious about the person you could be and start re-writing your narrative from a place of empowerment.

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Creating and Embodying Your Alter Ego

Here’s a fun exercise: imagine your future self – the version that struts into a room with the aura of who you dream of being. Erika introduced the concept of the “alter she-go” – a version of yourself that embodies all your goals and aspirations. Crafting this alter-she-go isn’t about faking it till you make it; it’s about tapping into your potential and allowing that version of you to take the driver’s seat.

Think about what your alter-she-go wears, how she speaks, and the beliefs she holds dear. Make her a constant part of your daily life, and slowly you’ll find yourself embodying her traits more often than not. Remember, even Beyonce has Sasha Fierce! So, who’s stopping you from stepping into your own super-powerful alter ego?

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Taking Responsibility for Your Energy and Presence

Let’s now dive into magnetism. Erika emphasised the importance of taking responsibility for the energy you bring into a space. It’s not about being the loudest or wearing the most sequined outfit (though sequins are always a brilliant idea), but about being intentional with how you show up.

Decide how you want a room to feel when you’re in it. Smile more, engage with others, and consciously choose to be a positive influence. The magic happens before you even know it – people start responding differently to you, and those “magnetic” connections begin to take form. Remember, magnetism is as much about repelling what isn’t for you as it is about attracting what is.

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Lets take these nuggets of wisdom and see how they can sprinkle a little more magnetism into your daily life. Whether it’s embodying your alter ego, consciously showing up with intention, or simply being grateful for what you have, every little shift counts. Here’s to unlocking that magnetic confidence and living your best, most vibrant life!

Make sure to check out Erika’s new book to dive into this more – trust me, it’s a FANTASTIC read.

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About Erika:

Erika Cramer, known as The Queen of Confidence, is a globally recognised confidence and mindset coach, TEDx speaker and bestselling author. From overcoming a life marked by trauma, foster care and early widowhood, Erika has dedicated her career to empowering women worldwide to step into their confidence and take ownership of their lives. As the award-winning host of The Confidence Chronicles podcast, which has amassed millions of downloads, Erika continues to inspire and guide women to break through limitations and embrace their full potential. Her no-nonsense, compassionate coaching approach equips women with the tools and mindset to stand tall in their authenticity, become magnetic in all areas of life, and lead with confidence. In addition to her coaching, Erika is pursuing a degree in psychotherapy, expanding her expertise to better serve her global audience of confident women ready to make their mark.

PURCHASE BECOMING MAGNETIC BOOK:

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https://thequeenofconfidence.com/becomingmagneticbook/

WORK WITH ERIKA:

Join her live coaching program “Next Level Your Life” and receive a special launch offer 
https://thequeenofconfidence.com/levelupyourlife/

The Confidence Chronicles Podcast
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